protect ur trans friends and keep them safe by using the proper pronouns and keeping their birth name a secret (unless you’re talking to someone they aren’t out to, in which case do the opposite). this especially goes for the friends of trans women
its 20 fucking 13 can we stop pretending that online activism and general awareness campaigns “dont do anything” before i got on tumblr i was a racist sexist anti-feminist piece of garbage whos greatest understanding of any social issue was discrimination against white gay men and that trans people were “men trapped in womens bodies”
obviously something fucking right is going on so why dont you stop being pessimistic little shits.
Blu’s point is very valid, particularly coupled with Erin bringing up that I can always refollow once I’m in a better place.
I’m on the verge of breaking down from seeing blacklisted posts EXISTING any that’s just. Really not healthy.
I guess that’s a thing.
That’s something I had to learn, definitely. And I can’t stress it enough to other’s.
I highly suggest if anyone is experiencing high levels of stress from their dashboard to either invest in blacklist/tumblrsavoir or to unfollow blogs that trigger stress, discomfort or scripting (when you rehearse replies you’ve no intention of actually posting). Its okay. You are more important than the blogs you follow. Even if the blogs you follow are giving you information on current events or are full of good arguments, your mental health comes before activism. Other people follow those blogs, too. The information will still get out even if you aren’t the one actively consuming it.
When I cut down who I followed, I got rid of blogs dedicated to activism and now primarily get information from friends. I still get plenty of information. Its okay if you don’t. To most of us, activism is an important hobby. Its not something we can or should (for our own health) dedicate our day to. Once in a while is fine, but we have our own goals to meet. We have responsibilities. We have ourselves to care for. You are worth caring for so take stock once in a while into how much time and energy you expend and whether its healthy for you. Fight the good fight, but remember that part of that fight involves respecting and loving yourself enough to implement self-care.
Katy, this post is amazing, thank you.
Just something that’s been bouncing around in my head lately. One of the artists I follow and look up to mentioned that they had things they were displeased with - and as can be expected all the comments were people telling them U R SO AWESOMEE!! - and another pointed out that they’ve been working on their art for 18 years to get to where they are. I promise, that’s an whole hell of a lot of poopy art to learn from. ♥
I’ve seen a lot of advice and posts telling people, particularly advice for burgeoning creators, not to slam on their works because nobody will want to hire/commission/what have you from someone without confidence.
And it does have some truth
but at the same time?
Don’t be ashamed if you feel bad about what you’re making sometimes. Even people that have been professionally trained and working for decades make stuff they’re not proud of, have doubts from time to time about what they’re doing. It’s wholly natural.
But ALSO don’t let it chain you down!!
It’s all part of growing! Work at this thing that you love, whether it’s drawing or writing or knitting or basketball or cooking or balancing a spoon on your nose. Do it because you love it, and accept that sometimes you’ll suck and sometimes?
Sometimes you’ll knock it out of the park.
Sometimes you’ll kick ass and take names.
And sometimes? Sometimes the ones everyone else loves are the ones you hate and the ones that speak to you the most get the least attention, and that’s okay too.
Because you’re not REALLY doing it for them. Their accolades are just icing on the cake. You’re doing it for you. And some stuff you’ll love and some stuff you won’t. But all of it is more practice and more learning and another step forward.
And that’s awesome.
I’m like this 99% of the time when I see something that bothers me. xD;;;
I just can’t do it today. I’m coloring cute idiots in love and I want to hold on to the good feels it’s giving me.
"I want to grow up to be like you"
….and then I realized that makes me old and flailed ;) ♥